Thursday, July 23, 2015

QUILT AND BLANKET FOR BABIES THAT DO NOT MAKE IT TO TERM

A long time ago I had a wonderful friend.  She was expecting a baby.  The baby never lived to even take it's first breath.

The mom was so devastated and so were most of us.  Wanting to ease the pain I made matching little quilts, only about 12 1/2" square.  The baby was buried with one and the mom took one home as a sweet memory.

Many years later I move to Atlanta, TX where my sweet cousin Tracy owns a funeral home.  She is telling me that she buries babies for free.



That is when I decided to make these little blankets and quilt for her funeral home (free of charge) since she does her end free.

A few weeks ago she had to use a set, the baby only made it to seven months for some reason it just died, mom had to deliver it.  So very sad.

The bigger blanket the baby is to be wrapped in  and the smaller one lies on top until the baby is ready to bury.  The mother takes this one.  She can even have someone embroider on it if she chooses.

My cousin said the mother took that little quilt and was holding it up to her face the whole way to her car.

Sometimes even when we know we can not take some one's pain way but maybe in a simple way we can ease it a little.





30 comments:

Lynn said...

What a thoughtful project!

paulette said...

What a touching post! I would have never thought of this but you are right! This is wonderful thing to do!

JustCindy said...

What a special thing you are doing for that Mother but you are a pretty special person.

suemac said...

Our little granddaughter made it to two and a half months. It is hard to let them go. I am sure memory quilts make it somewhat better.

Happy Cottage Quilter said...

What a beautiful expression of sympathy and love. Thank you for doing this. It is so hard when a baby is lost, no matter how far along they are. You and Tracy are blessing a family every time you share your heart gifts.

Gisela Suski said...

This is so touching an so greatly appreciative.

Mary Grace McNamara said...

Barb, this is such compassionate work you are doing for these parents. So very kind!

MGM

hetty said...

You are one of the special people in this world. Such a wonderful thing to do.

MoodyCatCrafts said...

What a wonderful thing to do, your thoughtful gift provides those poor parents with a lovely reminder of their little angels.

Terry said...

That's so sad and so sweet at the same time.

Tudy said...

That has to mean so much to the family. Good for you for doing this.

Anonymous said...

My brother and his wife have an angel baby. He is buried on our family ranch. Hard times.

Kim said...

Based on personal experience, I can tell you that what you are doing is so very much appreciated. Thank you for being so thoughtful and kind.

Carol- Beads and Birds said...

It's a very touching thing to do. I'm always amazed when someone thinks of just the right thing to do to ease someone's pain. I admire that quality so much and wish these kinds of ideas would bloom in me.
xx. Carol

Gene Black said...

That is a beautiful thing to do. thank you for easing pain in these folks lives.

Susan In Texas said...

That is so sweet. What a wonderful ministry.

Quiltdivajulie said...

A truly loving gesture . . .

Lorene Holbrook said...

oh barb, this made me cry! what a gift you and your sister are doing for these grieving families. I can't imagine! I wonder if anyone is doing soemthing like that here? thank you for sharing....

beaquilter said...

Oh how sweet, made me cry just reading about it.....

BJ said...

What a beautiful way to commemorate a life that will never be fully realized. The families must think you're an angel, too.

grandmatomato said...

Beautiful this is a very caring project, My sister is in a group that make very small smocked dresses for burial gowns.

Linda said...

I'm so very touched, thank you so much for your kindness. These moms will be forever grateful too!

Wendy said...

You will never truly know what a blessing you are being to the parents of the lost child. Five years ago my daughter gave birth to a stillborn son who was healthy at her sonogram and checkup the day before. Just five days before the due date Payton had a fatal cord injury. She gave birth just like a normal birth. We had time with him and a group of ladies from the area had crocheted blankets for this very reason. It is all my daughter has outside of a few pictures that we made with our time with Payton. I cannot truly convey what having those few blankets that he was wrapped in meant to us. She kept those and we buried him with a blanket that I had made for his arrival. On behalf of grieving parents and grand parents, I say a big thank you for what you are doing. The comfort that these little quilts will bring to the parents is truly a blessing. May you forever be blessed because of your wonderful heart my friend.

QuiltShopGal said...

Truly you are giving from your heart and soul. You did a great job finding words to share this sad story, but I'm having difficulty finding words to convey my heartfelt thoughts. Those poor families that lost such loved ones, especially while so tiny. I'm sure your beautiful quilts help to bring what good cheer and comfort can be found at such a sad time. Bless you.

QuiltShopGal
www.quiltshopgal.com

Barbara said...

Reading this with misty eyes. Bless you, Barb.

QuiltSue said...

What a lovely thing to do. I wish someone had done that for my daughter when her daughter died during childbirth. She has nothing to remember he by.

Fleurette said...

Ah bless you Barb, what a loving and caring gesture.

Barbara Arcement said...

Such a beautiful thing to do

Ruth said...

That means a lot, I'm sure. I lost a baby at full term and it's so difficult. My guild in TX makes little burial dresses for babies that didn't make it, but I really like your system of something for the sad Mommy to keep.

Judy said...

You are an angel!!